Help Him Remain Faithful

First, no man (or woman) ever has an excuse to cheat.  I don’t care what all is going31525_20130531_181922_relationship_09 on, you made a promise when you got married to be faithful and true to your spouse and you need to do that.

Having said that there is no excuse for cheating, I believe that there are things that wives can do to help their husband keep from cheating.  The following things are all common sense, but I am afraid sometimes that when we get busy doing all that we have to do in our lives we often forget our common sense.  I think often times it is important to remind each other about common sense things and help each other to follow our common sense.

he_is_mine___collab____complete__by_shadxth-d5q6jz1Make Sure He Knows that You Love Him:  Remember that each of us have one or two love languages that are really important to us.  For most men, physical – err – sexual touch is one of those.  Make sure that you are showing him sexually that you love him.  (I know some ladies get tired of hearing that, but it really is a big thing for most guys and if it is for your guy, make sure you don’t neglect it.)  You don’t want some other woman’s advance to have a greater chance of success simply, because he has not been sexually satisfied at home lately, do you?

Show Him You are Grateful He is Your Husband:  Men like to know that their families appreciate all that they do to support them.  Many men work long hours, sometimes doing jobs that they really hate; because that is the only way they can support their family.  It gets real lonely doing that if all they get at home is an attitude that says either, “Why should I thank you, that is what you are supposed to do,” or “You need to do more, you are not taking good enough care of me/us.”  Yes, that is what men should do, we should sacrifice to take care of our family and sometimes we need to do more, but that does not mean that we don’t deserve to be thanked for what we are doing.  A little gratitude goes a long way.

Do Not Make Him Feel Inferior:  No guy wants to be constantly compared to your friend’s husbands, especially if his wife is always talking about how great so-and-so is.  Instead, find things to brag on your husband about.  Let them know that you think some of the things that he does are great.  Brag on him, especially in front of him sometimes.  It could be anything from what a great job he did cooking on the grill the other night to how he did a great job getting you that special something you wanted.  It will make him feel like a million bucks.

Pray for Him to Be Faithful:  Let him know that you are praying for him, not that you don’t Prayertrust him, but because you know that there are women out there who would swoop in to grab a great guy like him.  He knows that sometimes he is more vulnerable than others and he will appreciate that you are praying for him.  Most guys want to stay true and will take all the help they can get to do just that.

Some Special Treatment: There are a few other things that you could do from time to time that would also let your husband know that he is special.  Try giving him an Ultimate Massage a few times a year.  If you want some tips on doing that, check my post about the Ultimate Massage. Another thing, is to make sure when you kiss him, you communicate your love to him.  Kissing can become routine, instead make sure you are giving him several loving kisses during the day.  Check my post about Loving Kisses for some ideas.  Some other things, do something different every now and then, do something he would enjoy, it does not matter what it is, but it shows him you love him.  Some ideas could be, watch some guy thing with him, like football, by his favorite ice cream, join him in the shower sometime, send the kids away from the night and tell him you are all his for the night, most importantly, you know your husband better than anyone, use your knowledge, imagination, and love for him, with that for your guide, you can’t go wrong.

There Are Certain Times That Make These Actions Even More Critical:  I know in my own life that there are times that I worry much more about straying than other times. (No, I never have strayed and I promise and pray that I never will!)  The time that scares me the most is when I travel. Being in a strange place, where few, if anyone knows me can cause me to think, “If I did stray, who would know?”  I know, God would know, and who knows what type of problems would result from that infidelity, but being honest, it is a temptation.

Another place that was a little uncomfortable for me is when I take my kids to places where there are more moms than dads.  For example, I took my daughter to the Children’s Museum, the adult male to female count was about 4 moms for every guy there and if you took away the men who were there with their wife, it was much, much higher, like I was the only guy there with my kid without a wife along.  It seemed to me that some of these ladies were a little more friendly than I thought they would be.  I don’t know if they were just impressed because I was there by myself with my daughter and were being encouraging or they were lonely, bored, jealous, or just enjoyed being a little flirtatious. I was a little nervous.

In each of these situations; I am glad to know my wife loves me. She is especially helpful Six-ways-to-stop-nagging-your-partner-300-1when I am going out of town, she finds some extra time and energy to demonstrate to me that I never want anyone else.  I am grateful for that.  I don’t want to face any of those temptations when I am weak.  (Hey, I don’t want to face them at all, but I know I can’t avoid them all.)  I know it is easier to deal with temptation knowing that I have a loving wife waiting for me.  If I thought she hated me, was mad at me, or even just indifferent, it would be harder to fight the temptation. (Again, it would not be an excuse.  I would be wrong.  For me In the end, it is the thought of how much it would hurt my wife, my kids, and how it would hurt my witness, that keeps me from ever cheating.  I have seen families and churches hurt by cheating.  I pray I never add to it.)

Ladies, please do what you can to make sure your husband knows that you are lips blown kissthere for him and that you want him, all of him, and that you are going to do what you can to make sure he knows all of this.  Sometimes men get doubts, they start to wonder if their wife still really loves them, if their wife still cares about them as she once did.  If you love him, you want him to know that, for him to know, you have to express that to him and probably express that in many ways, and do it often.  Chances are you want him to do the same thing to you, so show him how it is done! (Any guys reading this, Take Note:  Let your wife know you love her as often as you can, in as many ways as you can, and in a way that speaks to her!)

I know that post is longer than I wish it was, but I know it is very important.  It really can make all the difference in the world. Call these actions insurance, extra protection, whatever you want, but in the end they will help your you and help your husband to be happier and to have a stronger marriage.  Sounds like winning situation for both of you!  Hopefully you both will have fun doing all of these suggestions!

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4 thoughts on “Help Him Remain Faithful

  1. Great post!!!

    On the flirtation bit. Women, unfortunately are just that way – generally speaking. I’m not in the work force, but my man is – he says its terribly ‘open’ … I’ve witnessed it at church, married women are far too forward.

    I’ve accepted that I’ve had to up-my-game with the way a lot of women are around my husband. No, I’m not insecure or anything of the sort, it just gives him better staying power.

    • Thanks Robyn – It is sad that women, especially married women want to flirt with a married man. It is sad.

      To be honest, I hated having to write this post, I wish that this was not an issue. I wish that men were never tempted to stray and that women would never tempt them to do that. Of course I also wish that all husbands and wives were together in perfect harmony. Unfortunately, we live in a fallen world and there are forces trying to keep rip families apart.

      I am glad you are already doing your part to help your husband remain strong. I know it really helps.

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