Each of us have spots that make us tingle with joy. Sometimes it is the light feathery touch of a finger that brings that tingle, other times, other spots it is the firmer touch of the fingers, or whole hand that brings that same pleasure. Other times, other parts of the body bring out those shivers, smiles, and sighs. Sometimes, it’s the lips that do the trick, sometimes the tongue, sometimes eyelashes, sometimes teeth, and of course the possibilities are almost endless.
I believe that happy, healthy couples learn where those spots are on each other. They have taken the time to explore each other, they have taken the time to experiment, they have learned how to make each other happy and they take much joy in doing that.
I think it is important for you and your husband to spend time learning each other’s pleasure spots. It is important that you do this together, that you learn his spots and that you let him learn yours. Spend time playing together, spend time talking, and learn together.
Almost every guy I know, wants to know those spots on his wife. Husbands, at least the vast majority, want to able to make their wives very happy in bed. They get as much pleasure, in many case more pleasure bring their wife pleasure than they do their own. So it is important that you let him learn your pleasure spots. Teach him, he wants to learn. Teach him, that it is not formula, that it is not 3 minutes here, 5 minutes there, and then an explosion. Teach him that it takes time, that it takes variety, that what blew your socks off last week, may not do the same thing this week, yet it may bring about an even greater explosion next week. Teach him what he wants to learn, what he needs to learn. He will be grateful. But also, learn what you can about him.
No matter where you are in your relationship, there is still more that you can learn about each other. I am willing to bet that you more learn about each other physically the closer you will grown to each other in all areas. Sometimes the first time you try something, one of you may not enjoy it that much, however, the next time, you may both love it. However, always be sensitive to each other’s limits – we all have them and that is a good thing.
Something that is fun to do, when you know the spots that effect him, discretely touch one of those spots while you are at dinner or at a BBQ, it will have him thinking about you and smiling the rest of the evening.