Enjoy What He Likes

peyton-manning-denver-broncos-throwingUnless you live under a rock (or are one of the ones fighting the cold) you know that the Super Big Football Game is Sunday. (I would use it’s real name, but don’t want the NFL after me – They get weird sometimes.)  The game is one of the highlights of the sports year for most guys and it is something we look forward to, even if our favorite team is not in the game.  (I am lucky this year; I am a life-long Bronco fan.)

Don’t take his joy in the events of day away by pouting or being grumpy because he wants to watch the game.  (BTW – This is true of all big events that he wants to see.) I know wives who get so upset that he wants to watch the game that they will do anything to keep him from doing it.  Ladies I know most of you are much more understanding of this than men are and for that I applaud you.  (My next post to husbands will be about not being sports junkies and the need to be more tolerant of what their wife likes.)

Don’t hate what he likes: I think most guys like sharing what they like with their wives and would like them to participate in their activities at least some times, if not all the time.  Mrs. Rock is not much of a football fan, except when it comes to the Broncos.  If I am watching a football game that does not include the Broncos, it is rare for her to sit and watch with me, in fact about the only time is when she really wants lay her head in my lap while she goes to sleep.  But if the Broncos are on, she normally tries to watch at least some of the game with me, if not from beginning to end.  I LOVE WATCHING THE BRONCOS WITH HER.  I love it more than I like watching it with my friends, even more than watching it with my sons.  There is something bonding about sharing that time together.  

I bet your hubby would feel the same way, whether it is a movie he likes, a sporting event, going for a run, or even going fishing.  He may like to do it with his buddies part of the time, but he will love you being there at least some of the time.

How To Watch Football: I it sounds silly, but there are things that help to make the experience better for everyone.  My kids learned these at an early age.

  • No walking in front of the TV during a play or during an instant replay.
  • No talking when the referees are talking. (The Referees are also known as Zebras &/or Refs.)
  • No talking while the announcers are discussing an import play or call – I know that is harder to know, but if he is glued to the screen, you might want to ask softly before you start talking.

Beyond those rules, it is just the basics, make sure you have some good munchies and lots of Dr. Pepper to enjoy the game with.  BTW – if you don’t really like the game, remember that some people are spending millions of dollars to put commercials on during the game.  Some years they are more entertaining than the game itself.  (Normally, I say commercials are the perfect time to do some kissing, but not during this game, although halftime me be good for that that, it is twice as long during the championship game.)

I Can’t Promise it will Work, but if start to show an interest in his likes, such as football, it may be that he will be more willing to take an interest in some of your likes such as chick flicks and Downton Abby.  You might find other ways to sweeten that deal, but that would be for another post!

Advice for Guys – Again

businessman with hand on chinEvery now and then I take a post and send a little advice to the guys.  (I know there are a few guys who read RHW and I would guess that if you ladies like what I write for the guys, you might be sending your hubby this post.)

Okay Guys, Here it is:

telecharger-magic-love-original-335Be Romantic – Let’s face it guys, most women like romance.  They enjoy a touch of romance in their life.  It does not have to be every day, but we should do something at least every month. (Hey, that is just 12 times a year, not too much to ask in the way of an investment.)  BTW – Valentine’s day, Mother’s day, her Birthday, and your anniversary do not count.  You are expected to do something nice on those days.  If you need help remembering those days get a good calendar app for your phone, it is worth the investment!  I would also recommend you keep track of when you do something romantic for her, that way you will not forget.

Some romantic ideas:

  • Flowers – Always a good idea.  You don’t have to spend a lot of money; the Grocery Stores sell them for less than $10.  Also, if you can find wild flowers along the road, while they don’t last as long, she will still love the fact that you thought enough of her to stop and get them.
  • Cards & Notes – Again, something she will love and something you don’t have to spend much on.  My wife likes the cards I make on the computer as much or more than the ones that I buy.
  • Balloons – If you can do balloon animals great, if you can’t no problem, the dollar store has Mylar balloons with cool messages or graphics on it for a, what else at the dollar store, a dollar.
  • Candles – You can transform a room from normal to romantic with a few candles.  I once bought 24 votive candles in glass holders for about $8.  I put them in the room, light them all, some soft music, and brought Mrs. Rock in, she loved it.  I can use them a couple of more times.

Be Thoughtful – This is similar to romantic, but it is a little different in the application of it:  Here are some thoughtful ideas:

  • Leave Notes on Mirrors: Some different ways –
    • Get some anti-fog product (RainX makes one) and put it on the bathroom mirror, but use it to write a simple message like, “I Love You!”  Or “You Rock My World!”  She will see it every time she showers.
    • Write on the mirrors with a Sharpie or a Dry Erase marker.  You can write a lot this way, a long message.  Do it on the edges so she can still use the center of the mirror for what she needs.  The marker will come off with either glass cleaner or alcohol.
    • Behind the Mirror:  We are repainting right now, I have to take down the mirror and rehang it.  Before I rehang it, I am going to write a long note to here in sharpie and the mirror up over it.  I am going to take a picture of it, so she knows it is there.  I want her to know that I will be for years; maybe not being found for decades, yet that declaration of my love for her will be there. (I will put the text at the end of this post)
  • Paint a Note on a Wall:  Okay, it is a lot safer doing this when you know that you are going to paint the wall soon anyway. I painted a couple of things on the wall of the hallway.  One was a heart and another I wrote out, “I Love Mrs. Rock!”  Even if it just for a few days, she sees that every time she goes down that hall and knows I care for her.  (I am thinking about painting that back on there even after we paint the hallway, but I know she would worry that it would devalue house.)24132_1245401027714_1610041957_538475_690893_n
  • Get Some Vinyl Romantic Sayings: Either by some pre-made saying such as the one in the picture here or better yet, check with custom sign makers in town and have something make that is special to the two of you.
  • Make a Book:  With the software out there and the templates available to you, you can make wonderful memory books for you wife.  They can be full of pictures; you can do text with the pictures, even full pages of text.  I have done two or three of these for my wife.  I normally use MS Publisher, make the page the way I want it to look with pictures and text and then save the page as a JPEG.  I then put it in the photo book.  Once I have created the pages, I can do the rest on line and it will ship to your home (or work). The first time I did this, she cried when I gave it to her!

Of course there is the old standby, a romantic dinner out for just the two of you.  Hey, there is nothing wrong with this one, just make sure it is not your only trick and make sure that if you are doing this, that you help take care of the details your need to care for at home, like a babysitter for the kids and dinner for the kids.

Guys, take some time, invest a little effort and an few dollars into your marriage and it will pay off big dividends for you.  It will make her happy and it will help to bring you closer together.  The truth is, it does not matter too much what you do, it matters that you are thoughtful, caring, and loving in what you do.  If you don’t like any of the ideas above, or don’t think your wife will like them, that is fine, come up with ones that you think she will like.  I know that Mrs. Rock does not want me to spend a lot of money on her, she likes it when I can do things that don’t cost much, I suspect that there are a lot of wives out there like that, it is not the amount you spend, it is your effort.

(What I am writing behind the mirror) Every time you look in this mirror, I want you to remember the person you see is the person I love most in the whole world.  I am glad that our lives are intertwined. Know this, that when we are not together I miss you and that I crave everything about you, from your smile, your voice, your eyes, your kiss, your thoughts, and feeling your body next to mine.  You are a part of me, just as I am a part of you!