On Human Trafficking

2048873899_1365622940Human trafficking is not something that I would normally talk about on Rock His World, but I feel strongly about it and I feel it is a topic that needs to be talked about among Christians. I first heard about Human Trafficking about 4 years ago.  I am saddened that I do not hear more about than I do.  Even in the face of the 300 Nigerian Girls who were abducted by Boko Haram, we hear little about trafficking.  There is a silence on this issue that needs to be changed.

human-trafficking-awareness-trainingWe fought a war about 150 years ago that was suppose to end slavery in this country.  However, it continues to exist in the United States and in the World.  The difference now is that we are not enslaving people because they are of a particular race, now we are enslaving our own sons and daughters as well as people from other nations.  It is hard to get accurate information on Human Trafficking, but I am going to use information from A21, (Link is listed below.)

A21 is Ministry of Christine & Nick Caine.  I heard Christine speak at a conference a little while back and I was blown away by her testimony and by her energy.  A21’s goal is: Abolishing Injustice in the 21st Century.  They are a good place to start if you want to know more about this topic.

Some Facts:

  • There are more slaves in the world today than at any other point in human history, with an estimated 27 million in bondage across the globe.
  • The average age of trafficking victims is 12 years old.
  • Only 1-2% of all victims are ever rescued.
  • Human trafficking is the illegal trade of human beings, mainly for the purposes of forced labor and sex trafficking. As the world’s fastest growing criminal industry, it affects every nation across the globe. Every thirty seconds, someone is forced into this type of bondage—modern slavery.

Some Thoughts

This is slavery and slavery is about exploitation and devaluing others, for the sake of profit and power.  A couple of sites I looked at said that only about 25% of those who are trafficked are sent into the sex trade industry.  The rest are farm workers, domestic servants, and factory workers.

RHW is a opposed to prostitution in all forms.  The Bible clearly speaks about the dangers of it.  I think the fact that the vast majority of the prostitutes out there are slaves makes it an even greater crime, both against God and against women (and men.)  If guys would stop using prostitutes that would end one part of human trafficking and save almost 7 million people from that form of slavery.

All too often, we have thought of prostitution as a victimless crime, there have even been cries to legalize it everywhere.  Or society has romanticized prostitution, almost making it noble that woman turns to something hard, something beneath her in order to survive and give her a future.

The truth is, most of the women (and men) in prostitution are captives of thehuman-trafficking-bars_0ir pimps.  They are controlled, watched, and dominated by the pimp.  They cannot leave; they are punished if they don’t make enough money.  They are starved, they often times forced into drug addiction to help them be more controllable.  All of this so that some guys can satisfy his desires outside of marriage.

It bothers me, as a man that so much of this problem comes because of men’s actions.  Sometimes we think we have come so far as people, as a society, as a world wide community, yet we allow this to happen.  We have not come very far at all.

In looking back in history, we see that the biggest cry against slavery, the biggest voices that sought to stop it, both in the United States and in Great Brittan was that of Christians.  Christians spoke out and acted, we must be willing to do that again.  For if we don’t who will?

What We Can Do:

  • Pray – Pray that this form of slavery will be abolished right away.  Pray for organizations that are seeking to end human trafficking.
  • Raise Awareness – Talk about this issue, let people know that it exists.
  • Open Your Home – When people are rescued, they need a place of sanctuary, a place of escape.  What a great way to share the love of God.
  • Donate – Find an organization that seeks to end Human Trafficking and help support them.

More to Come…


The A21 Campaign: Abolishing Injustice in the 21st Century 



Don’t Expect Perfection

I had a talk with a friend recently.  He and his wife had just had a fight.  It was 2610462_Gnot huge, it was not mean, but he knows his wife and knows that there will be hurt that he has to deal with.  He is fearful that this will put a wedge between he and his wife, he felt (and still feels) that he needed to talk about those issues.  Now he fears she will fall into a pattern that she has fallen into in the past which something like this:  “I can’t trust you with my heart (or my body) because you hurt me.  I have to pull away until I can trust you again.”  I really feel for my friend, it is a hard place to be and yes, I have been there also.

There are some things that you need to know about that attitude, in case you or some of your friends ever exhibit it:

Withdrawing may make you feel better, but it will harm your relationship with your husband.  It will cause him to withdraw from you.  It will cause him to become even more critical and less patient.  In short it will make the problems a whole lot worse than they currently are. (No, it is not right, it is not the way it should be, but it is the way it will all most certainly be.)

Remember that some problems do have to brought up.  Chances are you 1343869794690_5469279have done this to, you have had to bring up some problems that made your husband uncomfortable.  You did not do it to make him mad or to be mean, but you did because it was something that needed to be dealt with.  The same thing is true for him.  He sees something that he thinks needs to be fixed.  Instead of getting mad at him, be grateful he cares enough to bring it up.

Acknowledge the hurt you have, but seek to forgive.  Your hurt is real, your pain is real.  However, no matter how much you are hurting, you still need to forgive your husband for what he did.  You need to do this whether he asks for it or not.  (Yes, it would best for him to ask for it and I truly hope he will.)  It has always amazed me that Jesus spent so much time talking about the importance of forgiving others, He basically said, if we don’t forgive, we won’t be forgiven.

Your husband will never be perfect.  That is okay, neither will you.  Seems like I heard a great teacher say something like, “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”  You need to treat him the way you want to be treated. (Matt 7:12 “Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”)  Do you want to be held to a standard of perfection?  No, I don’t blame you. Don’t hold him to that standard.  Do you want to be forgiven when you behave wrongly, whether you ask for it or not? If your answer is, “No,” then forgive when you are wronged.

If we all think about it, we know that we should not expect perfection from our spouse, but I think sometimes, we conscientiously expect it.  Let us do what we can to change this habit and to understand that we are all going to have bad days.

Another Year – Time to Try Again

calvin-hobbes-new-years-resolutionsIt is traditional for people to make New Years’ Resolutions at the beginning of the year. I also know that many of us have gotten tired of making them, having tried it many times before and failed to make those changes more often than not. That is something we can all relate to.

However, I would like to point out that if we never try to make changes, we will NewYearsResolutionsnever make them. Let’s face it, if we don’t make any changes in our life, we will always be the way we are now, unless God just miraculously zaps us and causes change. Almost all changes that take place in our life, involve us making a choice, asking God to help us get through it, and then relying on our ability to follow through. In other words, if you want to make changes in your life, you need to put forth some effort and ask God to help you.

Here are a few steps that may help you make a change in your life as we start the New Year.
• Examine your life and identify anything that you need to work on or change.
• Ask God to help you identify anything you need to work on or change.
• Pick a couple of these items and commit to change them.
• Sit down and write a few lines about what the change would look like and what it will take you doing in order to make that change.
o Put this paper somewhere you will see it a couple of times a day.
o Do these things as often as is needed to help you make that change
• Ask God to help you so that you can make those changes.
• Celebrate the times that you do the right thing and don’t let the times you slip get you too down, recognize that setbacks will come, but a setback does not equate failure.

May God bring you help, peace, and joy in the coming year. May His light shine in your life and help others to know Him better because of you!


Weekly Picks

ku-bigpicMy picks of what I consider to be articles worth reading.  Most of the time these will be from my fellow Christian Marriage Bloggers, but sometimes I will pick from other sources also if I think they are important.  (These are in no particular order.)

Weekly Picks: 10/18/13

around-the-worldAnother Installment of what I found on the net this week that I think is worth your time to read.  There are a lot of great marriage bloggers out there and I am grateful to learn from them.