Friday Funnies

From Time to Time I find things that make me laugh and I thought I 3779would pass some of them along to you.  I wish I could say I will find enough to have Friday Funnies every week, but I am sure I won’t, especially since I don’t want to post things that I don’t think are really funny just to have one every Friday:  I do have one slight disclaimer: I often will post things that are as much ironic as funny.  Sorry that is just me!

Anyway, without any further ado, This week’s Friday Funny:

Photo Oct 15, 10 58 01 PMI find it sad that often at home wives often do not put any effort in to looking good for their husbands.  I am not saying they should dress up all the time, but neither should he get, “the look” that you would not even wear to Walmart to pick up a couple of things, most if the time.  (I know hubbies are guilty also.  I would say to them also, “Don’t do it.  Give her your best!”)

Biblical Submission: There is More than You Think!

I see a lot of Marriage Sites on the net that talk about biblical submission.  I want you to shooesknow that I believe in the concept and the practice of biblical submission, I think it is the best way for a family to function. However, in most of what I see about biblical submission, I do not see what I believe the Bible really teaches about biblical submission.  I would like to look at this passage and explain what I think most people miss when it comes to the concept of biblical submission.

Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands – Eph. 5:21-24 (Verses 25-33 will follow) [New Living Translation]

21 And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.

22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.

Some Observations about this Passage:

  • Note: This command is for the wives, it is calling for wives to do this.  It does not say, Husbands, make your wife submit.
    • If a wife will not submit, it is ultimately between her and the Lord.
    • Husbands may suggest this is what his wife should do, but he should never try to force her.
  • Ladies, when you submit to your husband, it should be out of your love for the Lord, out of your desire to please God.  Yes, it will probably please your husband, but is ultimately part of your relationship and trust in the Lord that causes you to do this.
  • Notice that there is a certain amount of mutual submission involved here.  However, V. 21 is a general statement and V. 22 is a specific statement and in good interpretation, general statements are modified and refined by specific statements.  In other words, although there is a certain amount of mutual submission, there is greater degree put on the wives than the husbands. (Ladies, please stay with me on this one, read to the end before you get annoyed with me.)

Now for the Part that Seems to Get Skipped:

Eph. 5:25-33 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. 27 He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 30 And we are members of his body.

31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Some Observations about this Passage:

  • This passage is written to husband, it tells then what they should do.  Notice through 111589385_2FlwNCje_cout the passage, it tells the husband to love his wife in a sacrificial way.
  • V. 25 – Love your wife as Christ loved the church – How did Jesus ultimately show His love the church? He died to establish it. – Wow, are most husbands doing that?
  • V. 28 – Husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. – Again, are husbands really loving their wife as much as they love them self?
  • In reality, what God is commanding the husband to do is to love their wife more than he loves himself.
  • Anytime a husband uses the concept of submission to treat his wife in an unloving way, he is wrong.
  • A husband must put his wife’s needs above his own needs.

Some Conclusions:

  • Anytime that a wife is not submitting to her husband, the husband needs to first ask himself, “Am I loving my wife as Christ loved the church?” If husband answers, “No.” then he needs to work on his part and not worry about her part.
  • Look how this all works together: When a man loves his wife so much that he is truly couple-talkingputting her needs above his own needs, then she would have not have to worry about submitting to him because the husband would never do anything to harm his wife.
  • A husband cannot really love his wife if he does not do the following:
    • Talk to his wife, see what she thinks of each and every situation going on which effects the family.
    • He must put her needs above his own needs and do, not what he wants, but what is best for his wife and family.
  • Husbands also need to be reminded, that the position that they are placed in is not really that of a privilege, but more of a responsibility.

Final thoughts:

  • This passage is one of the most miss-used, abused, and misunderstood passages in the Bible:
    • It has been miss-used by men (in the church) to put women in a second class status.
    • It has been used by feminists and others to show that Christianity is unjust and even invalid.
  • If the church will teach the truth of this passage and the totality of this passage instead of just part of it, it will become a passage that does create conflict (or at least as much conflict) and instead creates harmony and closeness.  While it might not solve all problems people have with this passage, it will go along way towards understanding what God really desires in marriage.

Other Ways to Show Love

Most of us have thought about different ways to express love to the ones that we love.  I want to share a few ideas about ways to make your husband feel loved.

Show him respect to your husband and teach your children to respect him also.  I Respectthink this is a huge one today.  We live in a world where there is so much disrespect.  Respect is something we crave, we don’t like it when people dismiss us, our opinions, or our actions as being worthless.  We all want people in general and our families specifically to give honest, careful consideration to our actions.  We don’t often get it in the world, but we crave it from our family. (PeacefulWife.com has a couple of posts that you may want to check out on this topic.5 Ways Wives Unwittingly Disrespect Their Husbands & Husbands Share What is Disrespectful to Them)

Tell him that he is special to you. Most guys are used to hearing “I love you,” from their wife.  It is common, expected, and sometimes said out of habit more than out of genuine feeling. (At the very least guys worry it is said out of habit whether it really is or not.) However, when a wife says, “You are really special to me,” it makes him feel awesome.  It makes him think, “Wow, she really does care, she really does like me and love me.” Want to take it up a notch? Tell him you crave him!  That will Rock His World!

Presents are always nice: It does not have to be big expensive ones, just something CLIF Builder's Cookies & Cream Bar Closethat shows you are thinking about him and want to do something nice for him.  When my wife buys me a couple of my favorite energy/protein bars (Cliff: Builder Bars) or drops a Slushi by my office, I love it.  It shows that she is thinking of me and who does not like to be thought of?

Time with him, doing something he likes: I don’t watch a lot of sports on TV, on an average weekend, I may see a half of a football game and that is normally comprised of watching a few minutes of games on Saturday, Sunday, and Monday.  The one denver-broncos-wallpaper__400x250exception is if we are getting the Denver Bronco game.  Then I will probably sit and watch the whole game, only moving to get another diet Dr. Pepper or some snacks.  The Broncos are a family event, the boys are even more into them than me.  My wife likes them, but normally has something else she would rather do than watch them with me.  I love it however, when she says, “Forget the other stuff.” and pulls out the blanket and cuddles up with me on the couch to watch the game.  It is a treat, even if she does fall asleep and I can’t cheer as loud for the touchdowns as I would if she was not there.  The same thing is true when she watches a movie that I like and she really does not care about or even a bigger sacrifice, she watches a Marathon with me.  It is one of the things that she does to show me that she cares about me and that she loves me.

Something written down that he can keep.  My wife bought a blank book a couple of years ago and about every month or so, she writes in it and then leaves it on my pillow.  It is so nice to see something written that I know I can read later on when I am feeling down.  She normally tells me two things, that she loves me and what she appreciates about me.  It is nice to feel appreciate!

If you are still not sure what to do – ASK HIM!  He would be thrilled to know that you are thinking of him enough that you want to do something to reward him.  If you ask him, don’t let him say, “You don’t need to do anything.”  Tell him, that you want to do something nice for him.  You plan to do it periodically and you want to know what he would like.  Just make sure if you ask him, you do something soon for him.  You don’t want to get his hopes up and then not do anything.

Some other things that are nice:

  • A Massage (You may want to read my post about The Ultimate Message)
  • His Favorite Dinner.
  • A date – just the two of you, ask him out, take care of everything.
  • Doing some of his chores.
  • Dinner or lunch at a place he likes.
  • Letting sleep in.
  • Taking him out for a treat: An ice cream date, a coffee date…

You are only limited by your imagination. Many of the things you can do are low cost or no cost.

 
 
 

Let Him Pamper You!

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I love to pamper my wife.  I like to do nice things for her, romantic events, flowers, gifts, 25-Red-roses-in-a-vase-300x300and such.  For our 25th anniversary, I surprised her with a romantic weekend get away.  25 roses where waiting for us in our hotel room, I wrote a memory book that I had published from a custom book company, and I pampered her as much as possible.  I loved every minute of it.

I could go on about other things, but I think you get the point that I like to do things for her.  Candle light, soft 06-pamper-woman-061211music, sparkling grape juice (We don’t drink) and whatever I can do to make her feel loved. I love to give her back rubs and full body rubs.  I love to use oil on her, I love the way it leaves her skin so soft for days, even weeks later.

However, there is a problem.  She is resistant to me doing these things.  She does not like me making a big deal over her.  I have made it clear to her that I don’t do these things so she will make love to me.  I told her many times, I would be happy if she would just fall asleep while I did it.

The truth is it really bugs me that she does not let me pamper her more.  Which, pamper 1  brings me to my point for you wives out there.  It is quite simple, when your husband wants to pamper you, LET HIM!  It will make him happy, he will enjoy it. Relax, let him take care of you, let him pamper you.  If he is asking to do it, then he wants to do it. Don’t feel guilty, feel cherished. The more you enjoy it, the more he will enjoy it. It is definitely a Win – Win situation!

Postscript: I just read a wonderful post today by Forgiven Wife, entitled: “Leap of Faith.”  Her post relates to the topic of this blog since she is dealing with wives who feel that they are not worthy of happiness in marriage.  I found this to be a great article and it may give you an insight about why some ladies don’t want to be to be pampered.

Tell Your Man How Much You Admire Him

I was looking though a website that I stumbled upon – Peacefulwife.com and I found this article “What do you admire about your Man” and I liked it.  It gave me the idea to write about the importance of telling your man, that you admire him.

We live in a world where all of us often feel like people are always on our back about show-appreciationsomething.  All day at work we here things like do this, do that, work harder, faster, better, and.  When we do good, we are expected to do even better the next day.

The bottom line is that we often feel  like no matter what we do it is never enough.  It is a shame when this follows us home.  A husband often feels the same way when they get home as they did at work.  We feels like our wife is often mad about something. Sometimes, we start to think that you really don’t like us, you are just tolerating us because you have to.  I have been there and it is a miserable way to live.

If you don’t want him to feel that you only tolerate him, if you want your husband to feel special to feel appreciated, admired then it is simple: TELL HIM!  It will make him feel great.  Tell him many different things you appreciateappreciation can make a day even change a life copy and admire about him, from being patient, to being a good provider.  Being a good father, husband, and lover. Being a good example and being good Christian man.  Tell all of this and anything else you can think of.  Build him up, let him know that you really do admire him.  You can do it all at once, you can do it one trait at a time, but it needs to be done often, it needs to be sincere, and it needs to be more than just words, put some actions with it. Actions can be anything from making his favorite desert to dressing up in something special for him.  Giving him a huge hug and kiss to making his favorite dinner.  Sending him texts during the day that encourage him.  Me? I love a nice massage, if you are interested I wrote a post last week entitled “The Ultimate Massage.”  You may want to give it a read.

It is my sincere hope that when you start expressing your admiration to him, that he will do the the same thing back for you!

What Dads Really Want

I know, it is a little late for this.  Sorry, it has been a busy week and I almost missed the fact that tomorrow is Father’s Day.  I started thinking about what I would really like for Father’s Day and then started thinking about what most dads would want for Father’s Day and this is what I cam up with.

Dads want to be respected.  Dads often feel like what they do for the family gets Respect-e1364325953688forgotten.  They sometimes feel like the family does not appreciate the long hours, the hassles, and the garbage that takes place in most jobs, yet dads have to put up with this because that is what dads do.

Dads don’t expect to be kings, ruling with impunity, but they do want their wife and their children to appreciate the sacrifices that they have to make.  Working long hours is not fun and most dads do it because they have to.  They don’t like missing the special things in the kids life like games and recitals.  They are as sadder about that (in most cases) than the kids are.

What does respect look like? Well I am sure it will mean different things to different men, but it comes down to a few things. – Be happy to see him when he is around.  – Show him affection, smiles, hugs and kiss speak a special language. – Don’t treat him like one of the kids, treat him like a man. – Give his thoughts and ideas careful consideration, never dismiss them out of hand.  – Don’t make him look bad in front of others.  – Make time for him when he asks, but respect his need for alone time when he asks for it.  – Help the kids to enjoy their dad, yet also learn when it is time to give dad a break.

If you can give those things to the dad in your life, it will make his day and make the kiss-291long hours he puts in for his family worth it.  That will Rock His World!

If you want to make his day extra special.  When you go to bed on Father’s day, give him a reminder of just how he became a father in the first place.  That also will Rock His World.