Husbands, believe it or not, can be a very understanding. We know that our wives are very busy. The have a lot of responsibilities, which include, taking care of the house and the kids, probably volunteering for some organization, responsibilities at church, and in many cases, working outside the home also.
We understand that our wives are busy and that they are tired, sometimes (maybe even most of the time) to the point of being exhausted. We know that when you are like, there is not a lot of time for us and that you don’t have the energy to think about making love to us. We may not like that you have no time for us, we don’t like it, but we get it, we understand that sometimes there is nothing left for us. We tend to not get upset about it, because we know how life is.
There are however a couple of things that really do bother most guys, chances are that your husband is dealing with this. I think it is important for you to know, what bothers us, it is even more important for you to be working on a solution to fix these problems:
Problem One: Why Don’t You Make More Time for Us? We understand that there are many important things in your life. We know that we can always be your number one priority, but it seems far too often that we are not even in the top ten of your priorities. Maybe you think we are tough and therefore we can roll with the punches and we are okay with not being in the top ten. Most of us can deal with that for a short time, but when we feel like we are never in the top 10 and you never seem to try to change that, well we don’t like it! We believe that if we are really important to you, you would find a way to put us in the top ten. When you don’t we start to believe that we really don’t matter much to you.
Problem Two: There are Nights when you are not so busy and tired, yet you don’t seem interesting in us on those nights. We understand that many days you are worn out from all that you do. What bothers us is, when there is a night where you are not too busy, not too tired, and you want to take up you time with things that do not involve us. We even know that sometimes that you just need some time to yourself. However, if for the past five nights you have had free, you have not made us a significant part of that time any of those night, it is hard for us to take.
Here are some of the things I hear from guys that their wives do instead of spending time with them. I am not talking about doing this for just an hour or two, but I know wives that spend literally from 7:00 or 8:00 until after midnight on one or more of these. If it was just an hour or two, we would not complain, probably even enjoy it, because we know you need to unwind some and it would give us some time to unwind.
- The computer, doing anything from FB to solitaire.
- Playing with the pets.
- On the phone with friends.
- Games, either computer, video, card, or on paper like a crossword puzzle.
- TV or Movies.
- Let’s not forget “Ladies’ Night Out.”
We don’t want to take away your fun, we don’t want to take away your enjoyment, and we just want to be part of that fun and enjoyment. We want to think that spending time with us will make you happy, that it will be fun, that we can help relax you. We know you make us happy, make us feel good, and we want to not only be with you, but we want to make you feel better.
Ladies, if you want to keep your marriage strong, if you want it to weather the test of time, if you want it to ride out the storms of life so that you can sail into the sunset happily with your husband, then you need to do your part to make it ship-shape. You need to make him a priority in your marriage most of the time and you need to spend at least half of your down time with him.