Some Low Cost & No Cost Gifts for Him

If you are like many, if not most of the families out there, money is tight this holiday season.  You most likely want to give your husband a really nice gift, but you can’t justify spending money that you really don’t have. [Whatever you do, debt2please don’t be one of those families who puts so much on the credit card that you don’t get it paid off until September.]  Here are some gifts that you can give your husband that will really make him happy and he will love them, especially if you tell him you will do one of these for him a couple of times a month for the next year.

Strip_Tease_Sequence_9_by_AlwaysElev8edA Striptease: Every guy would love his wife doing this for him.  Pick a time when you know that you will have time alone.  Pick any room in the house that gives you privacy – There are several rooms in our house that this works in if the kids are all gone.  A couple things that will help: Find some music that you like and will help you relax and feel good dancing to.  Also, soft low light, (red lights or black lights are supposed to work well, I was thinking about a bunch of candles) it will make you more mysterious and he will love it still & it will help you not feel as self-conscious about your body.  If you want tips on how to do a strip, I know there are some Youtube videos about it, but I never watched them. (I started to watch them once, but decided after about a minute, I should not see them.)

A Lap Dance: I know, (well at least I think I know, my experience is TV shows – not cable ones even, and what a couple of friends told me), it is similar to a strip tease, but it will involve you getting closer and even sitting on his lap and grinding on top of him.  I think the clubs have rules that the customer cannot touch you, only you can touch them.  The truth is up can make up whatever rules you want and enforce them.  He will still win.  A couple of variations for both the strip tease, you could start with him dressed or undressed, or you could make stripping him a part of either show. Again, youtube has some videos & no, I did not even start to watch them, I just saw that they were available.

A Fantasy Night: Give him a night that he can pick any fantasy he has and you will help him act it out.  [Yes, set limits, like no pain or humiliation but make this fun for both of you, but be willing to stretch your limits a little.] Maybe do this a couple of nights and the second night it is your fantasy that is lived out.

Some Flirty – Sexy Pictures: No, I am not talking about nudes, I don’t thinkstrip_tease_00 tumblr_mxif2reQ0R1r3cwd7o1_500those are a good idea, I wrote about that a while back, you can read that post here; However, here are a couple of picture types that I think any husband would love to have from his wife.  These samples give you an idea of what I am thinking. Get one of your friends to help and you can do the same for her.

A Romantic Dinner for Two: Fix a nice dinner for him that he enjoys, have o_new-women-dresses-sexy-party-dress-cocktail-party-dress-ff96nice place setting, pretty table decorations, and img55840633candles.  Wear something that is stunning and maybe a little daring for dinner, after all it is just the two of you. Some variations: Fix just one plate and feed him and yourself at the same time.  Blind fold him before you feed him, have less clothes on when you take the blind fold off him than you had when you started.  I think you can probably provide a great dessert, but a little whip cream and chocolate may be fun also. (BTW – to keep this inexpensive, try a combination of your lingerie and other clothes you have, like a swimsuit top with a short skirt. What am I thinking, you ladies know more about this than me. I did find a couple of places that have cheap corsets and cheap body stockings.)

Spend Christmas Night Under the Tree Together: The quiet of the night, the lights on the trees, the sound of the fire place (If you are lucky enough to have one.)  It can be a very romantic setting. If you don’t have comfortable way to spend the night out there like an air mattress, spend an hour or so out there together cuddling, making out, whatever, it will be a nice way to finish what should be a wonderful day! (If company, travels etc. prevents you doing it Christmas night, pick another one, it is still nice.)

Some Fun Easy Ones:

  • Temporary Tattoos in very private spots (Here are some tats I found, most seem to be water proof and come off with oil.)
  • Fake Body Jewelry like the tats only with some bling. (A Couple of samples I found Click Here for one or Click Here another)
  • Shave yourself for him.  I know not all guys like this, but if you have never done it, I bet he would like to see it at least once.  [Addition from Robyn @  Up with Marriage To my sisters, I would suggest NOT shaving yourself!!! The pain of a 10-20 min Brazilian far outweighs a week and half of regrowth — far tooo itchy and the last thing you’ll want is more sex. Of course this could just be me. Also, hard wax is virtually painless. (and don’t forget to tell them to do up the backside ;) )]
  • A nice massage. Something most guys will take anytime and love it every time.  You can read my tips from my article – The Ultimate Massage

Next Week, More Gifts for Him, including some more traditional stocking stuffers and (hopefully) a free gift for you to share with him.

The Attitude of Gratitude

So here goes my first post.  The site is far from ready, but I feel strongly about this post. 

besthappymothersday_fullI was talking with a guy yesterday who was very down.  It seems that for the last two years he has gone out and gotten his wife very nice Mother’s Day presents.  He fixed her dinner both years, dinners that she requested, made sure the kids did something nice for her, and made the day about her, even banning the kids from the computer so they could spend time together.  Yet both years, his wife barely thanked him.  She gave him a little kiss, a little hug, and a quick thank you.  She barely smiled, in general showed no emotion, no gratitude.  Both of these gifts where things that she had asked for before, things she wanted and were surprises because it was not what he normally would do.  She should have been delighted, if she was, she did not show it.

His basic question to me was, “Why go through all of this?”  Why spend the extra time, money, and energy when the reaction she gave him was about the same as if he would have picked up some flowers at Walmart and brought home pizza.  I would say, he asks a good question, one that many guys ask, “Why try when it gets me no where?”

I have talked to other guys and it is often the same.  When many guys do something for their wives, they don’t get thanked, but get chided because it was not the same way as if the wife had done it or it was not as good as what her friend’s husband or boyfriend did.  Now I understand that  not doing things like she does can be a big deal sometimes, like washing color clothes in hot water and using bleach on them.  I get that problem.  But what I am talking about is when we clean the kitchen and do everything but forget to wipe the sink clean and wipe off the faucet and then get called on it.  “Give me a break,” is what we will think, “I just saved you an hour of work and that is what I get?  Why bother?”  I had one friend who’s wife complained that in 18 87771951--2272169569658376306years of marriage, he never brought her flowers. (A legitimate complaint IMO!) We pass out flowers one day at a Men’s Bible study, he takes it home and her response, “What did you do wrong that you are bringing me flowers?”  You think he will ever take any home again?

Ladies, I could go on with may examples, but I hope the point has been illustrated.  Here is what you need to do ladies.  When your husband does something nice for you, acknowledge it.  Tell him you really like it.  Act enthusiastically about it.  Don’t just say it once or twice, but remind him that you appreciate it a few times during the day.  And yes, a very physical thank you after you two go to bed would certainly seal the deal, but it does not take that, it DOES take an enthusiastic thank you. 

Bottom line ladies, if you want him to do nice things for you, you need to appreciate him when he does this.  Would it hurt to give him a kiss that curled his toes?  Would it hurt to hug him so hard that he can’t breathe?  It would boost his ego and morale to hear you tell your friends how your hubby did something really nice for you.  You would not believe what a difference it would make in his spirit and his willingness to do it again!

Rock His World and He Will Rock Yours in Return.  Sounds like a Win – Win to me!