I love to pamper my wife. I like to do nice things for her, romantic events, flowers, gifts, and such. For our 25th anniversary, I surprised her with a romantic weekend get away. 25 roses where waiting for us in our hotel room, I wrote a memory book that I had published from a custom book company, and I pampered her as much as possible. I loved every minute of it.
I could go on about other things, but I think you get the point that I like to do things for her. Candle light, soft music, sparkling grape juice (We don’t drink) and whatever I can do to make her feel loved. I love to give her back rubs and full body rubs. I love to use oil on her, I love the way it leaves her skin so soft for days, even weeks later.
However, there is a problem. She is resistant to me doing these things. She does not like me making a big deal over her. I have made it clear to her that I don’t do these things so she will make love to me. I told her many times, I would be happy if she would just fall asleep while I did it.
The truth is it really bugs me that she does not let me pamper her more. Which, brings me to my point for you wives out there. It is quite simple, when your husband wants to pamper you, LET HIM! It will make him happy, he will enjoy it. Relax, let him take care of you, let him pamper you. If he is asking to do it, then he wants to do it. Don’t feel guilty, feel cherished. The more you enjoy it, the more he will enjoy it. It is definitely a Win – Win situation!
Postscript: I just read a wonderful post today by Forgiven Wife, entitled: “Leap of Faith.” Her post relates to the topic of this blog since she is dealing with wives who feel that they are not worthy of happiness in marriage. I found this to be a great article and it may give you an insight about why some ladies don’t want to be to be pampered.