Other Ways to Show Love

Most of us have thought about different ways to express love to the ones that we love.  I want to share a few ideas about ways to make your husband feel loved.

Show him respect to your husband and teach your children to respect him also.  I Respectthink this is a huge one today.  We live in a world where there is so much disrespect.  Respect is something we crave, we don’t like it when people dismiss us, our opinions, or our actions as being worthless.  We all want people in general and our families specifically to give honest, careful consideration to our actions.  We don’t often get it in the world, but we crave it from our family. (PeacefulWife.com has a couple of posts that you may want to check out on this topic.5 Ways Wives Unwittingly Disrespect Their Husbands & Husbands Share What is Disrespectful to Them)

Tell him that he is special to you. Most guys are used to hearing “I love you,” from their wife.  It is common, expected, and sometimes said out of habit more than out of genuine feeling. (At the very least guys worry it is said out of habit whether it really is or not.) However, when a wife says, “You are really special to me,” it makes him feel awesome.  It makes him think, “Wow, she really does care, she really does like me and love me.” Want to take it up a notch? Tell him you crave him!  That will Rock His World!

Presents are always nice: It does not have to be big expensive ones, just something CLIF Builder's Cookies & Cream Bar Closethat shows you are thinking about him and want to do something nice for him.  When my wife buys me a couple of my favorite energy/protein bars (Cliff: Builder Bars) or drops a Slushi by my office, I love it.  It shows that she is thinking of me and who does not like to be thought of?

Time with him, doing something he likes: I don’t watch a lot of sports on TV, on an average weekend, I may see a half of a football game and that is normally comprised of watching a few minutes of games on Saturday, Sunday, and Monday.  The one denver-broncos-wallpaper__400x250exception is if we are getting the Denver Bronco game.  Then I will probably sit and watch the whole game, only moving to get another diet Dr. Pepper or some snacks.  The Broncos are a family event, the boys are even more into them than me.  My wife likes them, but normally has something else she would rather do than watch them with me.  I love it however, when she says, “Forget the other stuff.” and pulls out the blanket and cuddles up with me on the couch to watch the game.  It is a treat, even if she does fall asleep and I can’t cheer as loud for the touchdowns as I would if she was not there.  The same thing is true when she watches a movie that I like and she really does not care about or even a bigger sacrifice, she watches a Marathon with me.  It is one of the things that she does to show me that she cares about me and that she loves me.

Something written down that he can keep.  My wife bought a blank book a couple of years ago and about every month or so, she writes in it and then leaves it on my pillow.  It is so nice to see something written that I know I can read later on when I am feeling down.  She normally tells me two things, that she loves me and what she appreciates about me.  It is nice to feel appreciate!

If you are still not sure what to do – ASK HIM!  He would be thrilled to know that you are thinking of him enough that you want to do something to reward him.  If you ask him, don’t let him say, “You don’t need to do anything.”  Tell him, that you want to do something nice for him.  You plan to do it periodically and you want to know what he would like.  Just make sure if you ask him, you do something soon for him.  You don’t want to get his hopes up and then not do anything.

Some other things that are nice:

  • A Massage (You may want to read my post about The Ultimate Message)
  • His Favorite Dinner.
  • A date – just the two of you, ask him out, take care of everything.
  • Doing some of his chores.
  • Dinner or lunch at a place he likes.
  • Letting sleep in.
  • Taking him out for a treat: An ice cream date, a coffee date…

You are only limited by your imagination. Many of the things you can do are low cost or no cost.

 
 
 
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Tell Your Man How Much You Admire Him

I was looking though a website that I stumbled upon – Peacefulwife.com and I found this article “What do you admire about your Man” and I liked it.  It gave me the idea to write about the importance of telling your man, that you admire him.

We live in a world where all of us often feel like people are always on our back about show-appreciationsomething.  All day at work we here things like do this, do that, work harder, faster, better, and.  When we do good, we are expected to do even better the next day.

The bottom line is that we often feel  like no matter what we do it is never enough.  It is a shame when this follows us home.  A husband often feels the same way when they get home as they did at work.  We feels like our wife is often mad about something. Sometimes, we start to think that you really don’t like us, you are just tolerating us because you have to.  I have been there and it is a miserable way to live.

If you don’t want him to feel that you only tolerate him, if you want your husband to feel special to feel appreciated, admired then it is simple: TELL HIM!  It will make him feel great.  Tell him many different things you appreciateappreciation can make a day even change a life copy and admire about him, from being patient, to being a good provider.  Being a good father, husband, and lover. Being a good example and being good Christian man.  Tell all of this and anything else you can think of.  Build him up, let him know that you really do admire him.  You can do it all at once, you can do it one trait at a time, but it needs to be done often, it needs to be sincere, and it needs to be more than just words, put some actions with it. Actions can be anything from making his favorite desert to dressing up in something special for him.  Giving him a huge hug and kiss to making his favorite dinner.  Sending him texts during the day that encourage him.  Me? I love a nice massage, if you are interested I wrote a post last week entitled “The Ultimate Massage.”  You may want to give it a read.

It is my sincere hope that when you start expressing your admiration to him, that he will do the the same thing back for you!